Time Inches Along

A lot of you have been wishing us the best on the whole pregnancy thing. Being that I'll be away from home when we find out, I can only tell you that I'll post when I get the chance. I know that some people believe you shouldn't discuss such things during the first trimester, but I think that's bullshit. The idea seems to come from concern that you shouldn't get your hopes up, and by announcing it, you're treating it as a sure thing.

Believe me when I say that we don't consider it a sure thing, only that, if it happens, we will have cleared a hurdle we haven't cleared before. Consequently, we will be happy to have gotten that far, and yes, our expectations will have risen. But we know too many friends who have had miscarriages, some late in their second trimester -- we won't be taking anything for granted.

If we are fortunate enough to be pregnant, and we then suffer the misfortune of a miscarriage, I don't want to go through it stoically -- I want to be able to use our support system of family and friends (including the new ones I've "met" through my blog). Besides, I've told people this much, it doesn't make sense to suddenly shut up -- at this point being quiet would be something to the effect of I'll tell you if it doesn't work out, but you can infer what you want if I suddenly don't want to talk about it. In other words, you'll know whether or not I acknowledge it, and I'm not into playing an elaborate dance around reality.

I'm sure I'll have no trouble sleeping tonight. No trouble at all.